The V. Club Presents…The Mars/Venus Debate: Are Men and Women Really That Different When It Comes to Sex? | Dec. 11, 2018

The V. Club Presents...The Mars/Venus Debate: Are Men and Women Really That Different When It Comes to Sex?

The idea that men and women are polar opposites when it comes to sex is a popular one, immortalized in bestselling books like Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus. But are the sexes really that different in their sexual wants and needs? In this lecture and workshop led by Drs. Justin Lehmiller and Zhana Vrangalova, the most popular stereotypes about gender and sex (such as the idea that men are “wired” for short-term flings and women for long-term relationships) will be explored in light of what the science really says. As you’ll see, it turns out that much of what we’ve been led to believe about men, women, and sex just doesn’t hold up.


Tuesday, December 11 @ 7-9pm


The V. Club, 152 West 25th Street, Suite 602, New York City

RSVP here; Space is limited.

What we will cover:

  • Is it really true that men have a higher sex drive than women? And how do you navigate a relationship if one partner wants more sex than the other?
  • What do men and women fantasize about doing sexually?
  • How are men’s and women’s orgasms similar and different? Also, just how big is the “orgasm gap,” and what can we do to close it?
  • How do men and women really feel about casual sex? And are there differences in the number of partners men and women report having over the course of their lives?
  • Is it true that all women are inherently bisexual? What do we know about sexual fluidity, and does it exist in men, too.

About Dr. Justin Lehmiller:

Justin Lehmiller, PhD is a social psychologist, Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute, and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. He runs the popular blog Sex and Psychology and has written about the science of sex for Psychology Today, Playboy, VICE, USA Today, Politico, and New York Magazine.

His book Tell Me What You Want is a bestselling sexuality title on Amazon and has been covered in The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, The Atlantic, The Sunday Times, and numerous other publications worldwide.

Connect with him on Facebook (Dr. Justin Lehmiller – Sex & Psychology), Twitter (@JustinLehmiller), or Instagram (@JustinJLehmiller).

About Dr. Zhana Vrangalova:

Zhana Vrangalova, PhD earned her PhD in Developmental Psychology from Cornell University and now teaches human sexuality courses at New York University. She also co-hosts the Science of Sex podcast, runs the Casual Sex Project, writes for popular media, gives talks & workshops, sees private coaching clients, and shares new sex research info on social media. To connect with her, check out her website or her social media including  TwitterInstagram, and Facebook (all as @drzhana).