There is a sure way to make a man pull away, and most women do it. I will give you a hint. Men love their mothers. Men love their wives. But does a man want his wife acting like his mother?
As women, typically we are the more nurturing partner in the relationship. There is a physiological reason for it — we usually have higher levels of estrogen and oxytocin, the hormones that activate the caretaking and nesting behaviors. We want to provide and care for our partner and other important people in our lives in every way possible.
It comes from a place of deep love in our hearts, but we still have to be careful. Excessive care-taking of our partner can come off as mothering, which can make your partner pull away and diminish the passion in the relationship.
Why? Because being mothered can start to feel like being treated like a child. It can feel annoying and even emasculating to your partner. Men are sometimes guilty of this too, but it’s a more common behavior practiced by women.
How do you know if you’re being more of a “Mother” to your man and less of a “Lover”? Ask yourself some of the following:
- Have I ever made my partner change his outfit before going out somewhere?
- Did I make him purchase that outfit at the store against his own style preferences?
- Do I remind him of things a lot (e.g. pick up the dry-cleaning, call your sister, don’t forget the PTA meeting on Tuesday, and so on)?
- Do I often ask him to repeat back to me something I’ve just said as confirmation he was listening?
If you have, that’s ok! The important thing is to become aware of the mothering tendency and its impact on your partner.
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