The V. Club Presents…Monogamous, Monogamish, or Polyamorous: Which Type of Relationship is Right For You? w/ Justin Lehmiller | October 16, 2018

The V. Club Article on the Justin Lehmiller Presentation on Sexual Fantasies and Types of Relationships

Relationships can take a lot of different forms, from monogamous to “monogamish” to polyamorous. Each approach has its own unique set of advantages and disadvantages. So how do you figure out what kind of relationship is right for you—and how do you navigate it successfully? In this lecture and workshop, we will explore a range of relationship options and what you need to know about how each one works. We will look at what scientific research can tell us about which kind of relationship might be right for you and the key things you need to know for establishing and maintaining a satisfying sex and love life no matter which path you choose.


Tuesday, October 16 @ 7:30pm


The V. Club, 152 West 25th Street, Suite 602, New York City

RSVP here; Space is limited.

What we will cover:

  • Are humans meant for monogamy or non-monogamy? We will dive into the research and explore what the science says.
  • What does it mean to be “monogamish?” Or to be polyamorous? We will explore the different “flavors” of non-monogamy and what makes each one distinct.
  • What kind of relationship is right for you? Research suggests that different people may be suited to different types of relationships based on their personality patterns.
  • What are the advantages and disadvantages of monogamy and consensual non-monogamy? Does one type of relationship tend to work out better than another?
  • Getting the sex life and relationship that you want: We will discuss science-backed tips for maintaining happy and healthy relationships, whether you want to be monogamous, polyamorous, or something in between.

About Dr. Justin Lehmiller:

Justin Lehmiller, PhD is a social psychologist, Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute, and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. He runs the popular blog Sex and Psychology and has written about the science of sex for Psychology Today, Playboy, VICE, and New York Magazine.

His book Tell Me What You Want is a bestselling sexuality title on Amazon and has been covered in The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, The Atlantic, The Sunday Times, and numerous other publications worldwide.

Connect with him on Facebook (Dr. Justin Lehmiller – Sex & Psychology), Twitter (@JustinLehmiller), or Instagram (@JustinJLehmiller).