The V. Club Presents… Communicating Desire: Getting the Sex Life and Relationship You Want with Justin Lehmiller on August 8

The V. Club Presents...Communicating Desire: Getting the Sex Life and Relationship You Want with Justin Lehmiller

Join us for a workshop on how to communicate desire and get the sex life and relationship you want led by leading psychologist and author Justin Lehmiller, PhD on Wednesday, August 8. Are you getting what you want when it comes to sex? Odds are, probably not. Most of us have sexual fantasies that we wish were part of our sexual reality; however, few of us have shared these desires with our partners, let alone acted on them. Learning to communicate our desires is vital for maintaining happy and healthy relationships. Sexual communication has a number of benefits, from establishing greater intimacy and closeness to keeping the passion alive for the long haul.

In this lecture and workshop, we will break down the barriers to communicating about desire in a way that will help you to get more of what you want out of sex and to have a hotter and more satisfying relationship.


Wednesday, August 8 @ 7pm


The V. Club, 152 West 25th Street, Suite 602, New York City

RSVP here; Space is limited. 

About Dr. Justin Lehmiller:

Justin Lehmiller, PhD is a social psychologist, Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute, and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. He runs the popular blog Sex and Psychology and has written about the science of sex for Psychology Today, Playboy, VICE, and New York Magazine.

His book Tell Me What You Want is a bestselling sexuality title on Amazon and has been covered in The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, The Atlantic, The Sunday Times, and numerous other publications around the world. Connect with him on Facebook (Dr. Justin Lehmiller – Sex & Psychology), Twitter (@JustinLehmiller), or Instagram (@JustinJLehmiller).

What we will cover:

  • What is a “normal” sexual desire anyway? One of the biggest things holding us back from talking about our desires is the fear that what we want isn’t normal. We will begin by looking at the science of sexual desire because it can help us to redefine “normal” in a way that removes the shame, guilt, and insecurity that makes communicating about desire so difficult in the first place.
  • How do you begin a conversation about desire? We will discuss a range of tips and icebreakers that will allow you to confidently begin a dialogue with your partner.
  • How do you make the leap from fantasy to reality? We will discuss what you need to know if you’re thinking about acting on a sexual fantasy to increase the odds of a pleasurable experience for everyone involved.
  • Adult sex education: we will talk about the things you didn’t learn about sex and relationships in school that will help you to navigate common problems and challenges.