Erectile dysfunction (ED) can be a crushing blow for a man for several reasons. One is that his ability to perform is directly related to his overall sensibility relating to gender association through his genitals. It’s his “manhood”, his “BFF”. The second relates to how this affects his relationship with his long-term partner.
While there could be health factors as to why your partner is having erection issues, it is more likely that there are psychological factors at play. One of them is the fear of failure. In this case, the man feels as if he’s failed his partner by not fulfilling her expectations of a healthy and frequent sex life. The other fear of failure running in his mind is what happens when they’re going through the motions in bed and suddenly being unable to perform when it’s “Showtime.”
This fear in itself can greatly affect the relationship dynamic just as much out of the bedroom as it does in it. It can cause the woman to think there’s something wrong with her that her husband or long-term partner is having such issues. But here’s the empowering thing: if there isn’t an underlying medical issue as to why he’s experiencing ED (always consult a medical professional if you feel there might be), you may be able to help your guy out with a little psychology based exercise.
In this incredibly effective exercise (that has not only been proven to help with ED but also reignite passion into the relationship!) you start to make up various excuses as to why you can’t have sex. They can be anything from “I’m sore from the gym today,” to “I think I’m coming down with a cold,”. (If your guy doesn’t know an orgasm can clear your sinuses, then you can get away with this one easy!). But it’s all about the psychology behind it and what goes on in his mind when the pressure is off.
The key to making sure this exercise does work is to be clever. Really help your partner to believe that you want to have sex but cannot so there is no pressure on him to have sex. There are little nuances to making this effective that can’t be ignored. Be careful with this exercise because if it’s done incorrectly, it could make things worse in your sex life.
To learn more about this highly effective strategy for curing psychologically based ED and other ways you can help your partner through any sexual health-related issues he may be facing, take our masterclass, The Mature Woman’s Guide to Sexual Health and Relationships.
We’ll help you cure what ails him!