Follow these 6 easy steps to enjoy stronger and more frequent orgasms
Women around the world struggle with getting to the finish line. So if you’re frustrated with the frequency and strength of your orgasms, you’re not alone.
As women approach menopause, these issues can get even worse as declining estrogen can reduce the sensations in the clitoral and vaginal tissue during sex.
It’s a frustrating problem that impacts your sexual satisfaction, your partner’s experience of having sex with you, and your health as well. We have previously shared all the secret ways orgasms are good for you, the only question is how do you have them more often?
I created a 6-step plan that guarantees you will have stronger and more frequent orgasms in as little as a few weeks. Some of these steps may seem obvious or familiar to you. Based on my conversations with women who come to my practice, a few of these necessary steps are not as commonly known as they should be.
There is no magic pill for sexual satisfaction. But taken in combination, these 6 steps will bring you the stronger and more frequent orgasms that you should be having.
Train Your Pelvic Floor
This is by far the most important step to having stronger and more frequent orgasms. It’s also the step that gets the least amount of attention. Your pelvic floor tone (read: tightness) is heavily correlated to the strength and frequency of your orgasms.
Unfortunately, as we age our pelvic floor weakens so our ability to orgasm and the strength of our orgasms declines with age. Forget the kegels. The most effective way to turn back the clock on our lady parts is to use an electric muscle stimulator like the FDA-approved Yarlap.
Explore New Erogenous Zones
Most women think that the clitoris is their only magic button. It’s understandable because the clitoris is usually the first orgasmic zone that we discover when we start exploring our bodies in our teenage years. The clitoris is magical indeed, but it is not the only orgasmic zone that we have.
Learn how to locate and activate your G-spot so that you can start experiencing vaginal orgasms. Sometimes stimulating the labia can create an immediate effect too. Not to mention the nipples and other erogenous zones that work especially well for you. Some women report orgasming from nipple stimulation alone.
Don’t skip over this section if you think that since you’re over 30, 40, 50 or beyond, you have discovered all your erogenous zones. Women of all ages discover new sexual pleasures once they give themselves permission to explore.
Engage Multiple Erogenous Zones at Once
Use sex toys, hands, and your partner’s penis if available, to stimulate your clitoris and your G-spot simultaneously. Your orgasms will feel stronger and deeper if you hit up the two zones at once.
Practice. Practice. Practice.
Practice makes perfect when it comes to almost anything — including orgasms. Unfortunately, a whopping 30% of women report not masturbating at all in the past year.
Solo sex is actually the best way to get to know your own body and learn how to get stronger and more frequent orgasms. Masturbation gets you the desired result almost without fail and makes you a quicker study. Learn what you like then pass along the know-how to your partner.
Crease Your Sheets
This one comes as a surprise to many women I speak to. Creasing the sheets will trigger a reverse physiological effect: tensing up your body by tightly clutching something, whether it be bed sheets or the headboard, amplifies your sensations and will lead to a stronger orgasm.
Unleash Your Imagination
Did you know that your brain is your largest sex organ? It’s no surprise then that the female orgasm depends on what you think just as much as it depends on what your partner does to you.
Being in the moment is key to having a stronger orgasm. Fantasizing works great too. If you’re wondering what is the most popular female sexual fantasy, it’s submission, which explains the popularity of 50 Shades of Gray.
You will experience stronger and more frequent orgasms if you follow these 6 steps. However, as with most things, the devil is in the details.
You can get a step-by-step guide to how to apply these 6 steps in practice in our transformative masterclass Ladies Come First.
For women over 50, we have an additional masterclass The Mature Woman’s Guide to Sexual Health and Relationships where you will learn how to communicate better, reignite the spark, and the natural solutions to sexual challenges that you and he might be facing.